Hi All,
So since the last blog last week so much has happened since, I got rejected from asking a pretty girl out, my band broke up and I've lost a good mate to his alcoholism.
The band I was in for over a year has broken up, this saddens me because we had a great chance of going somewhere, main problem though? An alcoholic singer who causes trouble everywhere he goes, he has warrants out for his arrest and would be lucky to leave the state for travel.
He believes he is going to marry this Canadian bird of his and get himself duel citizenship, I would be surprised if she stuck around, she left the first time because of his drinking, nothing has changed since she has been away.
So anyway he and I go out Saturday night for a 30th party, turns out that before he starts drinking he's annoying the hell out of me, instead of allowing me to move seats to start a conversation with a few lady friends he grabs me in a headlock and points to the one with the largest breasts, check them out mate.... no need for details here so ill skip to where i shove him off me and tell him to get a life.
"Hey why are you holding me back? Let me go and talk to her", to a reply of nah you can't leave me here alone I'm bored when are we moving onto the drinking place?...
Fast forward a few hours, he's now bleed me dry of my cash and himself and I say, "Nothing left, can't afford anymore drinks mate", to a disgusting reply of "Oh that's ok I'll show you how to get free beer!"
He then proceeds to walk up to tables and drink others beers in front of them.
I am both disgusted and angered by this, before a fight starts I bolt downstairs and get some cash, order some more drinks and give them to everyone he drank from apologising for him. I'm very lucky I never got my head kicked in at this time.
So he's been eying out this rather "gay" individual and throws his jacket at him spilling all the drinks on the table, before his rather large and tall "boyfriend" comes charging in I picked up his jacket turned around and threw it at him then grabbed him by the collar and dropped him on the ground, shoved my knee into his ribs and started foaming at the mouth, I can't repeat what was said but I was not very happy with what he had did.
After the scream-a-thon was finished I got up and walked out the place and caught a taxi home.
Turns out he started a fist fight with a friend of his trying to keep him in check, that's how he treats his friends hey? Great mate that one.
So with the above two examples what did I learn this week?
Three things.
1. I am too damn kind for my own good and need to push back on people who do not appreciate what I have to offer.
2. I refuse to help anyone when they won't help themselves.
3. I reflected on the people in my life and came to the realisation that I am happy with the current people I have around me in my life.
To expand on point 3.
I've mentioned Scott in past posts, I've known him the longest, 10 years now, he helped me through all of this with some great words of wisdom through his own life experience.
Zane I've known for 8 years and even from WA he can still support and comfort me in my darkest times, just talking to him and his suggestions helped me through these changes.
Tracy I've known her for about 4 years now, she is the friend that was ready to go into battle for me when I turned down my this work colleague, her words are some I have never heard before, they brought me back to the reality of that it is not always me that is the cause of these problems but you will learn in life that in fact no matter how much you want to see the good in everyone, some people are just in it for themselves.
All of this should have happened to me 10 years ago not now when I'm almost 30, it's harder to deal with these problems because well the ignorance of youth would have been a warm welcome.
I am so thankful to have 3 very close people in my life who are there for me when I need them most.
My family of course also helped as they do, they put perspective on my experience.
"You will meet people in life, some will stay, most will pass on by, those who stay treat them well for they will be there for you at your darkest times, and you had better be there for them during theirs".
This has been such a huge life experience for me and I am so thankful that this happened, I am beating my fear of rejection and realising that there are people in my life who can help me through it.
I am so very thankful right now :)
Thanks for reading.
Adrian.
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